Wednesday, 24 June 2009

你是啥形象?

Dear friend, Adel, forwarded an 'image' quiz "你是啥形象?" and I tried it out. This is my result:

你是属于草香形象

你拥有非常坚强的意志,不依赖他人,给人独来独往的印象。你拥有旺盛的好奇心与丰富的感受性,是个过着知性生活的现代人。骤看下你是个自命清高,不好相处的人,但是一旦跟你交谈后,就知道你很好相处,等到交情加深之后,就更知道你其实拥有很爽快的个性。

你所拥有的中性化魅力,让你不论在男性团体或女性团体都大受欢迎,不过你不喜欢让人看到你脆弱的一面。你外表上看来也许很冷静,但实际上却是热情如火。能够知道你真正本性的人,才能够跟你天长地久地交往下去。

so my friends, you tell me this is true or not? I would say it's 80-90% la. hee...

Monday, 22 June 2009

孩子毕竟还是孩子

十三岁的坐在车里,用手假装机关枪向外扫射,嘴里还哒哒哒的装样!?是好笑还是好气呢?

十一岁的最近被一些事吓着了,晚上老是找借口到我房间睡,还得我握着他的手陪他才睡得着!望着他睡觉的样子,让我想起几天大的他在医院里,我守在他床边半忧半喜的心情。他还是我那可爱的baby

Saturday, 20 June 2009

I've got luck

Got this in the mail yesterday. I've got a belated birthday present! An sms lucky draw that I sent in Jan while at the hairdresser and forgotten all about. And suddenly I became a winner of the hamper! Hee...now I can try their new product. Hopefully it's as good as what they claim it to be.

But funny lor. Lucky draw for Jan issue of a mag, winners only got notified in Jun? wah, that's 5 months leh. A bit 夸张 right?

Lucky star, I need you more often, but on different things. Stay with me, I really need you.

Friday, 19 June 2009

He's in pain again...

This morning, after coming back fm the supermarket, saw Dad on the sofa, not looking very good. Then he asked me to get his painkiller fm his room. As I was asking about his pain and stuff, he said, "我看我日子也没多久了,一天一天的这里痛那里痛,前天腋下也开始有点痛了。唉。。。" His words wrenched my heart. Told him, "嘘,不要乱讲啦。我帮你把扫描和医生的日期换早些,让医生看看是什么事。你不要乱想,OK?"

看着他这样,我心里很痛、很无助。我不知道能做些什么?起初还会建议叫老妈帮他揉一揉痛处,可后来想了想,淋巴腺都是连接的,如果揉了会不会导致癌细胞扩散得更快呢?现在不敢再提议了。可是止痛药也不能一直吃啊?该怎么办呢?

另一方面,老妈的精神似乎越来越差,集中力不怎么好。现在跟她讲话,真的要坐到她面前,正面对着她讲,她才能听清楚八九成。有时还得重复两三次。真的很担心她的精神状况。唉。。

Saturday, 13 June 2009

Turning 41

I'm 41 today! or to be exact, in 2hrs 35mins time. hee...

actually, the big 4 is not that scary. actually you become more at peace and sure of yourself once you turn 40-something. the only scary fact is, the number of yr grey hair increases by the week now. hee...

oh, I'm very happy as I've received 11 birthday wishes through sms since midnight. I feel so blessed.


A BIG THANK YOU TO ALL OF YOU!

Friday, 12 June 2009

Farewell Gryffindor, our scratchy terrapin

While I was out having dinner with my dear friends last night, I didn't realise something happened at home. I only realised I had 9 missed calls and 2 msg from home towards the end of dinner. Both messages were from Matt:

"Come back early Mummy the terrapin passed away. ---matt" 20:05hrs

"Please come back faster" 20:36hrs

When I finally called home, Matt sounded very sad. He was not crying anymore, but I believed it must have hit him real bad. When I got home, his brothers said he was crying buckets. Cant blame him as there were no signs that the little reptile was sick or anything. It was still active in the afternoon. When they peeped at it around 8pm, it was not moving already and its limbs were hanging loosely.

Matt found a small paper box and put it inside with tissue papers. We sealed the box after saying our final goodbye. This time, Matt joined me in burying it. We chose to bury it beside our podocarpus tree. Let's hope it'll help the tree to grow better.

Bye Gryffindor. You've been good company.

Thank you my friends!

Was invited to dinner with G, J and E last night. It was an advance birthday celebration for me. We had Japanese buffet dinner at Hibiki at the Flyers. It was really a very good dinner! the food was great and really worthy for the price. And of course, the company was greater!

My frens, thank you for lending me yr listening ears. You've been such wonderful and supportive frens all these years. You guys are one of the only few who could understand me and never cast any doubts in me. Thank you for your confidence and may our friendship be forever.

Tuesday, 9 June 2009

something good

remember the accident that happened nearby in end April? well, i wrote an email to seek help from our Pasir Ris-Punggol GRC's MP, Dr Ahmad Magad, to get the issue to the LTA/Traffic Police's attention. Glad that I did that as they finally looked into it and decided that they'll build 2 humps and add some curve alignment markers on that stretch of the road to enhance the road safety here.

So happy to receive this news. Now just waiting for them to put it into action. Then I'll have one less worry when my kids come home themselves.

my kids uncontrollable?? totally absurd!

was chatting and playing with kids last night when their daddy joined us. He joked with the kids and told them, "wah, yr aunt's SIL also on mummy's fav forum leh. And she said mummy complain about you guys and said that you all are uncontrollable...." Immediately my elder boys went, "hah? why would mummy say that? when were we ever uncontrollable?" As usual, he switched topics and talked about other things before heading out again.

After putting the kids to sleep, I went to talk to him. I had to clear this bcos it is literally putting words into my mouth, and worse still, it concerns my perception of my kids. He said he spoke to her to clarify what happened. And instead of responsibility and safety issues, she diverted to ask why cant a 13yo go home himself? why I have no confidence in my sons? and she told him that she brought my kids out bcos I seeked her help to counsel my kids, that's why she's doing me a favour. It's not as if she wants to bring my kids out. So I am being ungrateful to her, after seeking her help, turn around and call her irresponsible. And she added that her SIL is on my fav parenting forum and had asked her about my complaints about the kids there, and if they are really so uncontrollable? and she added in cantonese "好心做坏事".

I told the man, the kids and I have always thot that she likes to bring them out bcos she loves and misses them, that's why I always encourage the kids to spend time with her whenever she's back. So now I know, we've all these while been 自做多情. And I only remembered sharing with her and other SIL about Drew's problems when he was P5, a period when he was defiant and hiding and not doing homework. At that time I did mention that if they've time, do speak to him and hopefully with all of us showing our concerns, he'll change for the better. But that was 2 1/2 yrs ago!? Drew has already changed and matured so much. And i showed him her sms and told him that I was mad with her bcos of her rebuttal. I'm talking about her responsibility towards the kids' safety, but she turn around to attack me. I agree when he said 2 wrongs dont make 1 right. But I just wanted her to know she has to be responsible when she brings the kids out. Is making a call to chk that they're home safely too much to ask for?

I'm glad I had the talk with the man and let him understand my points. He asked me not to be so upset about it and suggested that I shd perhaps have a talk with her to clear it up. But I told him, I've had enough of her and I wonder who actually is the one 好心遭雷劈. I will not be nasty to her, but dun expect me to be nice either. She is still afterall his sister and MIL's daughter. I'm not so heartless to chase her out.

And finally, I stand by my words and will not allow anyone to try putting words into my mouth. I will dig to the bottom to clear it. However, I'm a bit skeptical about her claim that her SIL told her my complaints at the forum. Anyone who's been at the forum long enough will know, how often do I complain about my kids? Not to mention calling them uncontrollable. Totally ridiculous!

Monday, 8 June 2009

still very tired...

haven't written anything over the last 3 wks. quite a few things, good and bad, that deserves noting down, but just didn't hv the mood to write. Actually now also no mood to write, but i wanted to put this exchange of msg on record bcos I'm still feeling very injustice.

to that woman: H, if u cant send them home, u shd hv called me to fetch them bk. It's so irresponsible to simply send them onto the bus n left them on their own. What if something happens to them on the way? Can u bear the responsibilities?

her rebuttal(or rather sounds more like accusation): you mean A has never made his way home from school alone? Or is N such a burden? I trust that A can handle it. I hope you can have more trust and faith in yr sons.

my final reply: I hv total faith and trust in my sons. I dun nd u to teach me that. But I've entrusted them to u n it's yr responsibility to ensure they get home safely. But u did not even bother to inform me they're on their way home, nor call to chk if they've reached home safely. This is utterly irresponsible!


someone who's hardly here trying to think that she knows my children more than me, or has more trust and faith in my children than me. 做错事的人还可以趾高气扬地批评人?真可笑!Anyway I think even my 17yo niece is more responsible than her. After so many episodes throughout the years, I've had enough of her. Why be so nice when pple dun reciprocate, not even to mention appreciate? Since she's always treating me as non-existent, then I'll just reciprocate in the same way lor. 真的,做好人不一定会有好报的。MIL在天有灵的话,她会知道我已经尽了我应尽的责任了。

and if the man chooses to think that I'm the one who's petty and I'm the one who's over-reacting, then fine lor. Well, all women are petty and all mothers, human or otherwise, will over-react when it comes to their children. Try to steal a chick from the mother-hen, and you'll see how she 'over-react' towards u.

Friday, 5 June 2009

To C, C and J

我的好妹妹们,每次和你们相聚都是那么地愉快,时间总是嫌不够。算一算我们相识也快二十四年了!时光飞逝啊!也因我们如此的熟络,和你们谈心时我也毫无保留、顾虑,很坦白直率地发表我的意见。言语之间或许我曾不经意地"触伤"了你们,希望你们不要介意,因为那纯粹是无心之过。

人与人之间能够相遇、相识到相知是一种缘分。希望我们的这分缘会持续下去,到我们白发苍苍时还能栖足谈心。这都是我的心底话,请不要置疑。

感谢你们的友谊,我会是你们永远的好朋友!